Comments on: Two Types of Forgiveness http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/two-types-of-forgiveness/ Dr. Jim Goldstein is a nationally recognized speaker, author and coach! Wed, 18 Jan 2012 18:12:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Masoud http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/two-types-of-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-146 Masoud Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:43:24 +0000 http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/?p=1638#comment-146 Very interesting! See, if I were in your son's position, next time I'd really hit him! ;D j/p I would certainly have words with him though. Although, I'm not sure what good would result in that action. Very interesting! See, if I were in your son’s position, next time I’d really hit him! ;D j/p

I would certainly have words with him though. Although, I’m not sure what good would result in that action.

]]> By: Dr. Jim Goldstein http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/two-types-of-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-115 Dr. Jim Goldstein Mon, 22 Feb 2010 23:00:07 +0000 http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/?p=1638#comment-115 I think it takes quite a while to experience the personal cost to us of not forgiving someone. At first it seems like no big deal but as you become hungry for the experience of peace and freedom, you realize that those people whom you haven't forgiven are limiting your self-expression in some way. This guy down the street from us thought my son was driving through the neighborhood too fast the other night. The man was walking his dog in the middle of the street and as my son moved past him, he yelled some obscenity and then my son saw him angrily punch the car with his fist. He dented it in the back panel pretty good. He later denied this and said my son got that dent because he hit the man (from the back?). Anyway, I haven't forgiven him for what he did to my son's car or for bold face lying about it. Interestingly, I notice that I am uncomfortable walking my dog near his house now. I believe that is because I haven't forgiven him. I think it takes quite a while to experience the personal cost to us of not forgiving someone. At first it seems like no big deal but as you become hungry for the experience of peace and freedom, you realize that those people whom you haven’t forgiven are limiting your self-expression in some way. This guy down the street from us thought my son was driving through the neighborhood too fast the other night. The man was walking his dog in the middle of the street and as my son moved past him, he yelled some obscenity and then my son saw him angrily punch the car with his fist. He dented it in the back panel pretty good. He later denied this and said my son got that dent because he hit the man (from the back?). Anyway, I haven’t forgiven him for what he did to my son’s car or for bold face lying about it. Interestingly, I notice that I am uncomfortable walking my dog near his house now. I believe that is because I haven’t forgiven him.

]]> By: Masoud http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/two-types-of-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-113 Masoud Mon, 22 Feb 2010 22:16:32 +0000 http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/?p=1638#comment-113 Damn, Jim! You are dead on! However, I sometime feel good to not forgive someone for what they've done. I almost want to punish them by excluding them from my life (not that it's a privilege to be in my life....you know what I mean). I guess there must be a distinction b/t forgiving and forgetting. I'm a little hazy on separating the two, but maybe one day I'll decide to grow up and live in a constant state of comfort where others can't hurt me and I, in return, don't want to hurt them. Thanks for once again opening my mind. Damn, Jim! You are dead on! However, I sometime feel good to not forgive someone for what they’ve done. I almost want to punish them by excluding them from my life (not that it’s a privilege to be in my life….you know what I mean).

I guess there must be a distinction b/t forgiving and forgetting. I’m a little hazy on separating the two, but maybe one day I’ll decide to grow up and live in a constant state of comfort where others can’t hurt me and I, in return, don’t want to hurt them.

Thanks for once again opening my mind.

]]> By: oliver http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/two-types-of-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-95 oliver Tue, 09 Feb 2010 22:57:16 +0000 http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/?p=1638#comment-95 My first wife deserted her 2 boys at age 4 and 18 months 5 years into our marriage. Eric, the first child was my love child and because of the desersion he grew up with hugh low self-esteem. All she would think about was herself and because of this I can never forgive her. I don't feel it hurts me emotional or physically, I just want her to in pain for the rest of her life! What you say makes good sense. Oliver My first wife deserted her 2 boys at age 4 and 18 months 5 years into our marriage. Eric, the first child was my love child and because of the desersion he grew up with hugh low self-esteem. All she would think about was herself and because of this I can never forgive her. I don’t feel it hurts me emotional or physically, I just want her to in pain for the rest of her life!

What you say makes good sense.

Oliver

]]> By: Dr. Jim Goldstein http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/two-types-of-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-92 Dr. Jim Goldstein Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:49:45 +0000 http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/?p=1638#comment-92 Thanks, Tara. Thanks, Tara.

]]> By: Tara Friend http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/two-types-of-forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-91 Tara Friend Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:24:46 +0000 http://drjimgoldstein.com/site/?p=1638#comment-91 This is the best description of forgiveness that I have ever read. This is also a very good explanation for why we are resistant to forgiveness. Thanks for writing this. This is the best description of forgiveness that I have ever read. This is also a very good explanation for why we are resistant to forgiveness. Thanks for writing this.

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